If you live with vaginismus, you already know that the thought of penetration can feel completely overwhelming. People around you might say, “Just relax,” or “It can’t hurt that much.” But to your brain, penetration doesn’t feel like a small challenge. It feels like stepping into a lion’s den.

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“I Feel Like Half a Woman” — Vaginismus and Self-Worth

One of the most painful thoughts many women with vaginismus share with me is: “I feel like I’m only half a woman.”

If you’ve ever had this thought, please know you are not alone. When intimacy feels impossible, when fear or pain block you from...

How to Get Past the First Insertion of a Dilator (or Finger) with Vaginismus

For many women living with vaginismus, the idea of inserting even the smallest dilator, or even a finger, can feel terrifying. You might have bought a set of dilators, unwrapped them, and then thought: I can’t do this. It ...

Why Is Sex Important? Can’t a Relationship Be Just Platonic?

When living with vaginismus, many women ask themselves a difficult question: “Why is sex even important? Why can’t it be normal to have a platonic relationship?”

It’s a brave and honest question. If sex feels painful, frightening, or imp...

It’s one of the most emotionally raw, physically frustrating, and often invisible experiences a woman can face: you want to be close, but your body won’t let you. Not out of choice — but because the second anything comes near your vulva or vaginal entrance, your muscles clamp down. Your heart races....

When the Path to Healing Feels Too Hard: How to Stay on Track When You Want to Give Up

Have you ever had one of those days when you’ve been trying your best — eating better, moving more, committing to your healing — and suddenly the scale goes up instead of down?

Or maybe you’ve been doing your da...