“I Can’t Do Dilating”
She said, “I want to overcome vaginismus…
But I can’t do that thing with the dilators.
Just thinking about it makes me panic.”
She felt stuck.
Because everyone said “just use dilators” — like it was easy.
But for her, it wasn’t.
Her body said: no way. Shut down. Full fear mode...
When it comes to vaginismus, few voices are as informed and grounded as Krsten Loop, who was recently interviewed by the respected website PainScience.com. As someone deeply familiar with the lived and clinical aspects of this condition, she’s not easily impressed by vague advice or one-size-fits-al...
If you’re here reading this, chances are you’ve felt that something isn’t quite right when it comes to intimacy or inserting anything vaginally — a tampon, a finger, or during intercourse. Maybe you’ve googled phrases like “why does...
If you've never had penetrative sex because it hurts too much — you're not alone. In fact, you may be one of the millions of women silently living with a condition called vaginismus.
It might feel like you’re the only one. Society doesn’t talk much about painful first sex. Films show it as awkward,...
Many women feel confused, ashamed, or even broken when intimacy causes physical discomfort. One of the most distressing symptoms I hear about from women with vaginismus is a burning sensation during sex or attempted penetration.
Let me reassure you:
You’re ...
I Love Her but She Freezes When We're Close: Understanding Vaginismus and How You Can Help
Feeling your partner suddenly freeze or tense up during moments of intimacy can be confusing, disheartening, and even painful emotionally. If your partner struggles with vaginismus, it's important to understa...
How to Help a Partner with Fear of Penetration: An Empathetic Guide
Fear of penetration is a deeply emotional and physical experience closely associated with vaginismus—a condition where involuntary muscle contractions prevent comfortable or pain-free penetration. Understanding how to support a par...
If you've discovered your girlfriend has vaginismus, you might be feeling confused, worried, or even helpless. Let me start by reassuring you: you're not alone, and neither is your partner. Vaginismus is a common yet highly treatable condition, characterized by involuntary tightening of pelvic floor...
Yes. Emotional fear can absolutely manifest as very real physical pain, especially in sensitive areas like your pelvic region. This phenomenon is particularly common in conditions like vaginismus, where fear and anxiety trigger involuntary muscle spasms in the pelvic floor. These contractions can be...
First, let me reassure you clearly and gently: absolutely nothing is wrong with you. The experience you're describing—wanting intimacy emotionally but feeling physically unable to participate—is a very common yet rarely talked-about...
If your heart starts racing, your breath becomes shallow, or your muscles tense up when you even think about intimacy—or right before engaging in sex—it's important to know that you're not alone.
Many women experience this intense fear response, which can stem from past ...
Testimonial
I’m 29 years old and suffer from vaginismus. When I tried to have sex for the first time in my early twenties, I quickly realized it wasn’t working and that something was wrong with me. At the time, I didn’t know what the cause was. Even in the years that followed, des
...Why Is It So Hard to Overcome Vaginismus—And Who Can You Trust to Help You?
By Dr. Julia Reeve
Let’s start with something important:
If you’re here because you’re struggling with vaginismus—maybe silently, maybe desperately—you’re not alone. And no, you’re not broken. There are real reasons why thi...
If you're quietly googling this question at night, tears in your eyes, your heart pounding from fear and shame—please know this: you are not alone.
Vaginismus affects more women than we talk about. And far too many suffer in silence, blaming themselves, feeling broke...
Vaginismus affects millions of women worldwide, yet it remains one of the most difficult topics to discuss. Many women struggle to find the words to explain what they’re going through—whether to a partner, a doctor, or even themselves. And when they fin...
Let’s talk.
You’ve been following me, reading my emails, maybe even downloading my free resources. You know who I am, what I do, and how I help women like you. And yet… you still haven’t taken that next step.
So, let’s get honest: Wha...
For many women, vaginismus isn’t just about the body—it’s about the brain. If you’ve tried dilating but felt stuck, frustrated, or overwhelmed, it’s not your fault. The real issue lies in the fear response buried deep in your nervous syst...
