“I Can’t Do Dilating”
Jul 23, 2025“I Can’t Do Dilating”
She said, “I want to overcome vaginismus…
But I can’t do that thing with the dilators.
Just thinking about it makes me panic.”
She felt stuck.
Because everyone said “just use dilators” — like it was easy.
But for her, it wasn’t.
Her body said: no way. Shut down. Full fear mode. Not doing it.
I told her:
“You’re not alone. That fear is part of vaginismus.
But there’ is a way to approach dilating that’s different.
Gentle. Trauma-aware. Step by step. Finding that fine line where fear stars to creep in.
No pushing. No pressure. Just progress you can actually handle.”
And slowly… it stopped being terrifying.
She started small. Safe.
And her body began to say: maybe.
She’s still on the journey — but she’s no longer stuck.
She’s learning how to work with her body, not against it.
If you’re scared of dilating too…
Let me invite you to The Vaginismus Zone.
Private, soft guidance. No pressure.
Just the support you need — exactly where you are.
Understanding vaginismus is an important first step — but lasting change usually requires a clear, structured approach.
If you recognise yourself in what you’ve just read and would prefer not to navigate this alone, you can explore The Vaginismus Zone — a private, step-by-step recovery programme created by Dr. Julia Reeve.
You can move at your own pace, with lifetime access, and without pressure.