If you live with vaginismus, you already know that the thought of penetration can feel completely overwhelming. People around you might say, “Just relax,” or “It can’t hurt that much.” But to your brain, penetration doesn’t feel like a small challenge. It feels like stepping into a lion’s den.

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For many women with vaginismus, the very first step — inserting the smallest dilator — feels like standing at the base of a mountain. It’s not just about a piece of medical-grade silicone or plastic; it’s about facing fear, letting go of tension, and allowing yourself to trust your own body again. I...

“I Feel Like Half a Woman” — Vaginismus and Self-Worth

One of the most painful thoughts many women with vaginismus share with me is: “I feel like I’m only half a woman.”

If you’ve ever had this thought, please know you are not alone. When intimacy feels impossible, when fear or pain block you from...

How to Get Past the First Insertion of a Dilator (or Finger) with Vaginismus

For many women living with vaginismus, the idea of inserting even the smallest dilator, or even a finger, can feel terrifying. You might have bought a set of dilators, unwrapped them, and then thought: I can’t do this. It ...

Why Is Sex Important? Can’t a Relationship Be Just Platonic?

When living with vaginismus, many women ask themselves a difficult question: “Why is sex even important? Why can’t it be normal to have a platonic relationship?”

It’s a brave and honest question. If sex feels painful, frightening, or imp...