For many women with vaginismus, the very first step — inserting the smallest dilator — feels like standing at the base of a mountain. It’s not just about a piece of medical-grade silicone or plastic; it’s about facing fear, letting go of tension, and allowing yourself to trust your own body again. I...

“I Feel Like Half a Woman” — Vaginismus and Self-Worth

One of the most painful thoughts many women with vaginismus share with me is: “I feel like I’m only half a woman.”

If you’ve ever had this thought, please know you are not alone. When intimacy feels impossible, when fear or pain block you from...

How to Get Past the First Insertion of a Dilator (or Finger) with Vaginismus

For many women living with vaginismus, the idea of inserting even the smallest dilator, or even a finger, can feel terrifying. You might have bought a set of dilators, unwrapped them, and then thought: I can’t do this. It ...

Why Is Sex Important? Can’t a Relationship Be Just Platonic?

When living with vaginismus, many women ask themselves a difficult question: “Why is sex even important? Why can’t it be normal to have a platonic relationship?”

It’s a brave and honest question. If sex feels painful, frightening, or imp...

It’s one of the most emotionally raw, physically frustrating, and often invisible experiences a woman can face: you want to be close, but your body won’t let you. Not out of choice — but because the second anything comes near your vulva or vaginal entrance, your muscles clamp down. Your heart races....