When women first discover the word vaginismus, a flood of questions often follows. Some feel instant relief: “Finally, there’s a name for what I’ve been experiencing.” Others feel fear: “Do I really have this condition? What does it mean for my life?”
But one question quietly underlies everything:
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When people hear the word vaginismus, they often assume it is always something terrible, something that must urgently be “cured.” But that isn’t true for every woman. Over my 30+ years as a gynaecologist, psychotherapist, and sexologist, I’ve met many women with vaginismus — and each one has had her...
If you live with vaginismus, you already know that the thought of penetration can feel completely overwhelming. People around you might say, “Just relax,” or “It can’t hurt that much.” But to your brain, penetration doesn’t feel like a small challenge. It feels like stepping into a lion’s den.
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For many women with vaginismus, the idea of a Pap test can feel overwhelming. The fear isn’t just about the procedure itself, but about losing control, being surprised, or experiencing pain. Over the years I’ve seen countless women who postponed their cervical screening because of this fear — and wh...
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