For many women with vaginismus, the idea of a Pap test can feel overwhelming. The fear isn’t just about the procedure itself, but about losing control, being surprised, or experiencing pain. Over the years I’ve seen countless women who postponed their cervical screening because of this fear — and wh...
“I Feel Like Half a Woman” — Vaginismus and Self-Worth
One of the most painful thoughts many women with vaginismus share with me is: “I feel like I’m only half a woman.”
If you’ve ever had this thought, please know you are not alone. When intimacy feels impossible, when fear or pain block you from...
How to Get Past the First Insertion of a Dilator (or Finger) with Vaginismus
For many women living with vaginismus, the idea of inserting even the smallest dilator, or even a finger, can feel terrifying. You might have bought a set of dilators, unwrapped them, and then thought: I can’t do this. It ...
Why Is Sex Important? Can’t a Relationship Be Just Platonic?
When living with vaginismus, many women ask themselves a difficult question: “Why is sex even important? Why can’t it be normal to have a platonic relationship?”
It’s a brave and honest question. If sex feels painful, frightening, or imp...
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