“I Don’t Even Think I Want To” She told me: “I don’t even think I want to overcome vaginismus.” And I believed her. Because fear can sound like indifference.
She said, “I’m fine without sex. I don’t even care any more.” But her body told a different story. Tension. Avoidance. A quiet ache she couldn’t name.
I said to her: “You don’t have to want sex. Or be like anyone else. But you do deserve to feel safe in your body again. To choose — not to freeze.”
That changed everything. Because it’s not about sex. It’s about freedom, safety, and choice.
She joined The Vaginismus Zone quietly, without pressure. And step by step, she started to breathe differently. To move with a little less fear.
If any part of you is curious.. Let me invite you inside the Zone. It’s safe. Private. You’re free to come and go. But you don’t have to do this alone any more.
Gentle next steps
When you’re ready, two quiet ways to begin
Understanding is the first step. The rest comes from gentle, steady practice — at your own pace, in private, with a companion by your side.
The Vaginismus Book
A gentle, science-based guide to understanding what’s happening and why. “Knowledge removes fear.” In English and German.
The TVZ App
Your private, step-by-step dilator companion. Follow a gentle 9-stage path, log each practice, and build confidence at your own pace. Everything stays on your phone.
There’s no deadline and no obligation — only what’s right for you.
Warmly,
Dr Julia Reeve
Gynaecologist · Psychotherapist · Sexologist · Author of The Vaginismus Book
Dr Julia Reeve
Gynaecologist, psychotherapist and sexologist based in Amsterdam, with over thirty years working with women experiencing vaginismus. Author of The Vaginismus Book and creator of the TVZ dilator companion app.
This article is for general information and education. It is not a substitute for individual medical advice. If you have persistent pain or distress, please see a qualified healthcare professional.